With the increasing obsession growing upon contemporary idols, there is an immense pressure for their lives outside their career to be kept hidden and private. With some particularly crazy fans, it is no doubt that problems can quickly escalate if not handled carefully. Although the idea of dating is not desirable in the industry, there are some cases where dating is mainly accepted but then again there are cases where everything can go haywire!
Although the ‘no dating policy after debut’ isn’t a bright issue to flaunt about, it is a common subject among companies. Idols can be considered as tangible goods, the money makers for many music company’s and regardless of what they do, companies must ensure that money keeps flowing through at an optimal level. By dating, not only does this affect the money making schemes it also heavily influences the popularity of the idol.
A primary example of this is of Park Hanbyul and Se7en whereby their near-decade relationship was forced to be exposed after a series of photos of the duo became viral. His fan base dropped by half and with his recent comeback in play, it was revealed that he had been less successful compared to his previous comeback prior to the juicy news. By publicly dating, this alienates the obsessive fans who invest in their idol’s merchandise, making them lose hope with their ‘fantasy-relationships’. Ultimately, this heavily influences the income of the artist as fans determine the popularity and with this comes an increase in sales. But if this factor diminishes, the income will also deplete.
Another predominant factor whereby the date-free policy is implemented is due to fans. Idols/Idol Groups operate under extremely strong fan bases. This is where some of the weirdest sides of a person can be emphasized. Obsession is a powerful notion in life particularly when this notion was brought to light when fans showed their true fascination in one of the most recent and tragic cases of all time. A few years back, a young Korean girl committed suicide after being harassed by supposedly a group of ‘faithful’ ELF fans after her photo with Super Junior member,Kangin went viral. Fans went to the extreme of getting access to her private details such as her phone number and address and they bombarded the young girl with hurtful comments. Although, she had no intimacy with the star whatsoever other than having a clear admiration for the idol, she became a target. This clearly demonstrates the power that fan bases overall possess and the extremes that a fan will go to achieve the illusion, “If I can’t have her/him, no one can have her/him.”
Another issue that was brought alight was of SHINee’s Jonghyun and Shin Se-kyung’s relationship that blew out last year. Right after the rumors were confirmed by both parties, SM Entertainment quickly put an end to things, preventing the news to escalate any further. SME restricted reporters and other media access from coming into contact with SHINee, preventing further harm that the matter had already provoked. Having already founded such a strong foundation, fan wars began occurring scrutinizing each party as being ‘not-worthy’ to date the significant other. Anti numbers rose, leaving hurtful and threatening messages. Even til this day, fans continually criticize the efforts of both parties remarkably doubting the relationship in all corners.
Similarly, after the performance for MBC Gayo DaeJun, SNSD’s Yoona and 2PM’s Taecyeon became a hot topic. Even though the charismic couple dispelled all rumors, many fans thought otherwise. A case at that time that caught my attention was of the threatening letter that Yoona had received amidst her acceptance in the role of becoming a permanent member of Family Outing alongside her alleged lover. With the ongoing trend of that time, Yoona herself became a victim of the visually graphic bloody threat letter. This once again reinforces the extremes that fan’s will undergo to delude themselves into thinking that idols belong purely to them even if it means putting themselves in danger.
By embarking a career in the music industry one must fully comprehend all consequences. To open publicly about your love life, you are endangering yourself and your partner. As much as we don’t want to believe, it is extremely difficult for these idols to date accounting numerous factors that are consequently poisonous for their career. Being the good community of Ningin that we are, we will always be supportive for our favorite idols, even if they were to openly date. But this is evidently not the case for minority. It is extremely difficult to take sides and explore the situation considering how we do not have a 100% overview of the case.
It is fair to say idols are still human and equally have the right to date. I do personally believe that dating is quite difficult and should not be encouraged to prevent some horrendous consequences much like many of the issues that were accentuated in this article. Love does come at a cost and it is evident that this is the case. With some ‘obsessive’ fans, they will go to the ultimate extreme to ensure that their beloved idol only belongs to them, even if it does mean committing immoral things.
With this said, do you think idols should date?
No reactions to display.